The Break up Not "To-Do" List
Moraya Ugwu • July 16, 2021
Right before covid I went through one of the most heart-breaking moments of my life. My boyfriend of then 2 and half years told me he didn’t want to be with me anymore and he was moving on with his life. At that point in time my life had basically surrounded him, I believed we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. With my world crumbling down I didn’t know how to behave or who to really turn to. So here is how not to act after a super big break up and maybe you can learn from my mistakes!
- DO NOT get black out drunk at a fancy bar. I feel as though going out to drink is very normal after a breakup. But what I did was not acceptable. I was invited to one of the top clubs in Boston with my friend and some girls I had never even met before. So of course, I had to get dressed up in my skintight dress like the boss I am and was ready for a good fun night out. Let’s just say one drink turned into 15 and me waking up on a coach in a house that I couldn’t recognize (now it’s the house of one of my close friends lol). Through the rest of the next day, I pieced together that I got into a VIP section made out with an old rich dude the bottle girl kept handing me drinks and I through up in the uber on the way home. This is a day I like to forget and needless to say did not make me feel any better about the breakup.
- DO NOT eat your feelings. I have this bad habit of when I am sad or depressed, I eat until throw up or go into a food coma. Let just say there were many days and nights where I only left my bedroom to go to the kitchen and grab a pile of food and returned to my fetal position. In those two weeks I gained 15 pounds and became very sluggish and disliked every inch of my body. Even though I was trying to convince myself that I was not destroying my body and I slowly was. Last time I checked just because someone is a jerk doesn’t mean I should be hurting myself even more!
- DO NOT tell everyone your business. One of the most important things I have learned in my life is that not everyone is your friend. There are people in this world who love to see you going through a hard time just so they can get all the information and share with everyone else how terrible your doing. It’s no one else business what happened besides you and that person in the relationship and if the other person wants to share and spread lies about you that’s their prerogative. You get the chance to keep the things you want private and share your truth when your ready!
Break ups are tough and can change a life drastically but lets try to make it change for the better!
As always remember to keep thriving!
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